Our Misguided Beliefs About Our Worth As Women
I’ve worked with hundreds of women and time after time I’ve heard the same misguided beliefs about self-worth and what makes a woman valuable or acceptable.
The belief: That favorable external appearances equal self-worth.
This belief keeps us stuck in a miserable cycle of unending striving to appear pleasing and acceptable to society, to fit into a mold of outdated beauty standards.
We think to ourselves, “If I was just a little more this and a little less that…”
The reality is true self-worth comes from within and is built through life experiences, from trying, making mistakes and learning, and self-reflection and growth. Through appreciation and acceptance of ourselves as we are now and not who we hope to be one day.
The belief: Validation from outside sources is essential.
That you need approval and recognition from others to feel good about yourself.
Sure, this may feel good for a fleeting moment. But the words of others can only fill you up for so long. Relying on others will leave you feeling empty, searching, and in a constant chase.
Lasting confidence and self-worth come from the ability to validate yourself by recognizing your strengths, efforts, and accomplishments.
The belief: Perfection is the goal.
We need to be perfect in every aspect of our lives to have “arrived” and be worthy - our careers, our relationships, our homes, our skills, and our bank accounts.
Perfection is an illusion.
It’s a setup for failure.
It keeps us right where society wants us, feeling not good enough, not worthy, and therefore throwing all our efforts into hustle culture and people-pleasing.
Picking up the slack for those around us and making other people’s lives easier while sacrificing our own.
Embracing imperfection, and allowing ourselves to make mistakes and learn from them is a more realistic and healthier path to self-esteem and self-acceptance.
But I get it because….
I’ve held those same beliefs before. And the constant chasing and people-pleasing left me feeling exhausted, empty, and unfulfilled.
The truth is improving self-worth and developing self-acceptance comes from doing your own deep, soul-searching work in self-reflection and soul care.
This is why I am so passionate about helping guide and support women to reconstruct their beliefs about themself and develop acceptance from within. To develop a soul care routine, where you practice accepting, appreciating, or loving all of your parts.
I’d love to get the chance to be part of your journey and walk alongside you.